I looked at the door lady blankly. I imagine she was a hot girl when she was sixteen going on
Driving home I kept thinking about the ugliness of what that woman had said and the even uglier impression she made on me as a result. She might be the kindest person on the planet for all I know and it’s not like she barred me from the party for being ugly, so why was I so upset? My mind had conjured the worst dark magic, making her look bad to dispel how bad she had made me feel.
I sifted through my mental debris searching for something to make sense of this and settled on a tasty Barbara Smith titbit: There’s a difference between being opposed to the status quo because of your own identity and being consciously, actively, radically opposed because you understand how the system works.
As I pondered, I saw three
In those few seconds, all I saw were dreadlocks streaming behind swinging arms. I couldn’t tell if they were male or female. It didn’t matter. They looked so purposeful, marching as if to war. Walking stridently, but somehow, happily. Min gespin about traffic or tourists. They looked so free and it was so sexy. I lifted my eyes to the mountain, saying a quick please-and-thank-you for them, my friends, and the things that make them so beautiful. Focusing on intent. Sharing fruit, the earth’s candy. Making an effort to be supportive. Trying new things. Questioning the status quo and feeling some type of way about injustice, even if not directly affected. Especially when not directly affected. I hoped that none of them would ever be turned away from anywhere, for whatever reason. More than that, that they would never turn others away.
On that hot December night in Cape Town, I prayed to all the gods for all my friends in all the cities to feel the way my mother lives – free in her skin.
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